With how broken I used to feel, I was honored to share how I began to think unbroken on the Think Unbroken podcast.
Experiencing trauma is hard enough but trying to figure out how to move past your trauma can seem like an impossible task. It's why many people want to give up because they feel like their suffering will only end in death.
The host, Michael Unbroken, and I discussed how important it is to leverage the small wins you have along the way so you can build momentum. As you continue to progress and experience small wins it'll build your confidence and the belief that you can move through and beyond your pain.
You can find our episode on Apple Podcasts, Audible, Spotify, and other major podcast platforms. The title of our episode is, "E374: Stephanie M. Hutchins, Ph.D. - The power of nature in healing trauma | Trauma Healing Coach."
I'd love to help you take back control of your life! Learn more: serotinouslife.com/coaching-programs
Setting boundaries is the ultimate form of self-care. There is no greater way to show yourself love and respect than by saying, "I will not tolerate being hurt in this way."
In this video, I discuss my recent experiences with setting boundaries with two people in my life and what I learned. I hope it will encourage you to also decide where you'll draw a line in the sand and say, "No more!"
If you have boundaries you'd like to set, but you don't know where to begin or you're scared to set boundaries, I'd love to help you devise a plan to draw a line in the sand in a 2-hour strategy session: serotinouslife.com/strategy-session
I'm developing another course on trauma recovery. The section I've been working on is about replacing negative coping strategies. This clip is from the video pertaining to that topic in the course. I'm hopeful that this video will help you feel more empathy and compassion toward yourself for the ways you've tried to survive in the aftermath of your trauma.
It's obvious from this video that I don't appreciate the times that I've been judged harshly by others for the ways I've tried to survive. If you've also been judged harshly, please try not to turn on yourself. When we are berated by others it's easy to internalize that language and start using harsh words to condemn ourselves.
Yes, it's important to find ways to stop harming ourselves. But it isn't as simple as using logical reasoning to stop. I knew that having sex with random strangers, binging and purging 8 to 12 times per day, and drinking until I blacked out was bad for me. I didn't need anyone to tell me that....
There is no better reminder of how fleeting our time is on Earth than a cemetery. Cemeteries are filled with opportunities for introspection. They are the perfect place to reflect on the lessons you can take from your past and the improvements you can make to the way you're currently experiencing life.
A cemetery reminds us to continually ask ourselves whether we are spending our days in ways that enrich our lives or detract from the short amount of time we have here on Earth. It's so easy to get caught up in the stresses of daily living and just getting from one day to the next that we can easily forget that those days that we don't live purposefully will build up into weeks, months, and years and could culminate into a life filled with regrets.
If you're tired of merely surviving, if you're tired of the day-to-day grind chipping away at your life, or if you're tired of your painful past stealing more of your life from you, I encourage you to develop a plan to break out of that...
People often think they're condemned to a life of misery after they experience trauma. I also believed this at one time. During that time, I only wanted to die because I thought my suffering was only going to end in death. But it wasn't true!
Everything changed the moment I realized I could choose what I was going to focus on each day. I could choose to focus on the pain and devastation my trauma left behind. Or I could choose to focus on the day right in front of me. Once I started to focus on the day in front of me, I began to see that life wasn't just about suffering. I started to see beauty all around me. I saw that every minute of every day I had a choice of what I chose to focus on: pain or beauty.
As I say in this video, “We can change how we experience life by just shifting the stories we tell ourselves and shifting what we choose to place our focus on and that’s empowering! That means that our unchangeable past can stay where it belongs, in the past. And it means...
Because I'm happy and bubbly by nature and always have a smile on my face, people often think I don't have a care in the world. People who don't know about my past traumas think that I've never struggled when it's the farthest thing from the truth. I'm constantly at battle with myself. Every day I need to choose whether I'm going to slip into old patterns or repeat the new habits and beliefs that will get me closer to the life I desire and deserve.
In this video, I talk about why most of us hide our pain with a smile, the consequences of doing so, and how we can start working through our hidden pain. I also do a reading from my book, Transformation After Trauma: Embracing Post-Traumatic Growth.
If you're in need of tools to deal with the moments and days when you feel like you're dying inside, I encourage you to read or listen to Transformation After Trauma. I detail the tools that have been most important in my healing journey and instructions on how you can use each...
We can learn a lot about resilience when observing nature. I'm particularly fascinated by trees and how they can thrive in the face of adversity. It's why hiking has been so important in my healing journey. It's shown me examples of resilience in all life forms, including myself.
Hopefully this video gives you ideas for how to look for glimmers of hope in your environment so you can hold on while you figure out how to get through the obstacles life has thrown in your path.
If you have a specific obstacle that you'd like to overcome, but need assistance in creating a plan for moving forward, I'd love to help! Learn more about my 2-hour strategy sessions here: serotinouslife.com/strategy-session
Hiking has been important in my healing journey for so many reasons. It pushes me mentally and physically. It proves to me over and over that I am strong, and that I can do hard things. In the early stages of my healing journey it made me realize that if I can keep going in the mountains when I wanted to give up that I could summit the figurative mountains in my life that I thought I wasn't capable of summiting, particularly my traumas.
In this video, I talk about how important hiking was in my healing journey and the importance of chunking down your goals into manageable bite-sized pieces so you don't get overwhelmed.
If you want a full toolkit on how to use goal setting in your healing journey, I encourage you to read my book, Reclaim Your Life After Trauma: The Power of Goal Setting. Sign up here to begin reading the Introduction and Chapter 1 of the book for free: serotinouslife.com/reclaim-your-life-book
If you'd like to read the full book, you can find the eBook and...
Even though love can help us heal, it's so hard to trust again after experiencing trauma. Because many people I encountered when I was younger hurt me, or they died, I started to distance myself from people. Even though I love people and I love talking with them there was always a wall that I put up so people couldn’t get too close. But I was very lonely for most of the years of my life. I’m now 40 years old and it’s only been within the past few years that I’ve allowed myself to really get close to people. But I didn’t do it randomly.
I first started with people who wanted to be close to me, but I pushed them away. I was very open and honest with them and told them about my mission to improve the relationships with people who love me and to build trust in others. I told them I was scared of getting hurt and that being vulnerable is hard for me. Because they already loved me, and this is what they'd been hoping for all along, each of them was patient...
In this video, I talk about how trauma can steal moments of joy from us unexpectedly. Like I recently experienced, you can be enjoying life in one moment and then something can trigger you and send you back into remembering your trauma. Or, it can cause you to be scared over all the ways that your current joy could be stolen from you.
Hopefully it will give you ideas for how to handle moments when you're triggered. If you need additional ideas for self-care practices to handle the moments when you're triggered, I encourage you to read or listen to my book, Transformation After Trauma: Embracing Post-traumatic Growth. Sign up here to begin reading the Introduction and Chapter 1 for free: serotinouslife.com/transformation-after-trauma-book
If you want to read or listen to the full book, you can find the eBook, audiobook, and paperback on Amazon: amazon.com/dp/1950336204