Being Judged and Criticized Harshly: Doing My Best to Survive

healing from trauma Jul 12, 2022

I'm developing another course on trauma recovery. The section I've been working on is about replacing negative coping strategies. This clip is from the video pertaining to that topic in the course. I'm hopeful that this video will help you feel more empathy and compassion toward yourself for the ways you've tried to survive in the aftermath of your trauma.

It's obvious from this video that I don't appreciate the times that I've been judged harshly by others for the ways I've tried to survive. If you've also been judged harshly, please try not to turn on yourself. When we are berated by others it's easy to internalize that language and start using harsh words to condemn ourselves.

Yes, it's important to find ways to stop harming ourselves. But it isn't as simple as using logical reasoning to stop. I knew that having sex with random strangers, binging and purging 8 to 12 times per day, and drinking until I blacked out was bad for me. I didn't need anyone to tell me that. Knowing something is bad for you isn't enough to make you stop doing it.

That's why I detailed how I worked through some of my negative coping strategies as well as the most important positive coping strategies I used in my trauma healing journey in my first book, Transformation After Trauma: Embracing Post-Traumatic Growth. Instead of condemning you for what you've done to survive in the aftermath of your trauma I give you tools you can use to get out of the invisible cage trauma locks you in. Sign up here to begin reading the Introduction and Chapter 1 for free:

If you want to read or listen to the full book, you can find the ebook, audiobook, and paperback on Amazon:


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