This is me at 17 years old trying to hide. I was hiding the pain of having 7 men sexually violate me by this point. I was hiding the severe eating disorder, and multiple other ways that I harmed by body because of self-hatred, shame, and disgust. When I was 19, an eighth man violated me, and I carried that secret with me as well.
The secrets became so heavy. I felt like I was going to break under their pressure.
When I was 24, I found a man that loved me in ways that I never imagined. I thought I finally found a person I could share my secrets with. But the Universe felt I needed to continue to carry the burden all by myself because before I could tell him, I found him dead.
My life spiraled out of control after that. I became morbidly obese, I had debt collectors calling me because I couldn't work from my deep depression, and I contemplated suicide on a daily basis.
I went from not trusting anyone, to having many loving relationships
I went from harming my body, to practicing daily self-care.
I went from being hounded by debt collectors, to being financially secure.
For years I was told that I was stupid, worthless, and I would never amount to anything. But I proved them all wrong! I have since gone on to complete my doctorate degree, I was a college professor for 12 years, and I now used what I learned from my healing journey to help others on theirs.
As Frank Sinatra said, "The best revenge is massive success."
I've developed a program to help you design your life based on your terms. The program will arm you with the tools I used to break free from my trauma, so I could live the life that my victimizers never wanted me to have.
You are deserving and worthy of a life that doesn't revolve around something that someone else did to you or circumstances that were out of your control.
I have an extensive trauma history, yet I also have an extensive history of success since my traumas. I've taken everything I've learned from my years of healing, my years of studying and teaching about the human body and mind, and my years of studying human potential and condensed it into this program. This program will walk you through the steps I took to not only heal, but thrive after my trauma so you can do the same!
As a life coach, my job is to challenge you and push you farther than you would push yourself, to encourage you to grow and experience change, and ultimately the transformation you're looking for. Transformation cannot occur without growth, without change, and without becoming someone you never were before.
I would be honored to partner with you on own personal journey to transformation.
This online course is offered in 6 learning modules. Each module, released biweekly over 12 weeks, includes videos, readings, downloadable tools, awareness-building and habit-forming exercises, and the opportunity to apply the content immediately to your life.
We will have four, 60-minute coaching calls together; one in Modules 1, 2, 4, and 6.
In between coaching calls, I will be accessible to you via email. You will also submit each completed worksheet to me via email so I can provide you with feedback.
You will dig down deep into why this work is important to you. You will begin tracking your transformation so you can see your progress over time. You will also create a self-care plan to have in place to cope with difficult emotions as they come up during the course and in daily life.
You will examine each of the 10 major areas of your life; career, finances, contribution, health, personal growth, spirituality, family and friends, romance, recreation, and environment. You will evaluate how satisfied you currently are in each area and what you can do to change the areas that you are not satisfied with.
You will identify your short- and long-term goals. Then you will identify the one goal that would have the greatest positive impact on all areas of your life by achieving. Then you will drill down to the specifics on how you will achieve that goal.
You will evaluate the limiting beliefs that have prevented you from achieving your desired goals up to this point. You will learn how to replace these limiting beliefs with ones that better serve you.
You will learn the importance of self-care and will be given self-care practices to begin implementing right away. You will start to embrace the idea that the most important person to take care of in your life is YOU.
You will work through the fears, shame, and ways in which you need to forgive yourself, so you don’t sabotage your success. You will also develop a plan of action to ensure that the new habits and beliefs you created during this course will last a lifetime.
Let's walk together on your journey forward, so you can emerge from your trauma stronger than you were before. I know you didn't ask to be stronger, but I will show you the benefits of embracing the pain and using it for fuel to move into a life that is within YOUR control.
I have chosen to explore the world and all the beauty it has to offer. What will you choose to do in the next stage of your life - in your new beginning? This program will allow you to start dreaming again.
One of the many amazing sights I saw while on safari!
I saw the most spectacular rainbow while trekking in the Atacama Desert!
The Valley of Geysers in Kamchatka is purely magical!
I will send you a signed copy of my book, Transformation After Trauma: Embracing Post-Traumatic Growth, with a personal inscription.
"Before God guided me to Stephanie, I was incapacitated with insecurities. Stephanie’s calming demeanor and clever analogies caused my light bulb to illuminate! Now I am a confident woman, I have dedicated my life to helping others, I moved to my dream location, I fell in love with and married a loving and respectful man, and (not that money matters) but I make more now then I have ever made in my life! I am the bread winner in our home. I needed Stephanie to guide me to my own pull chain, she encouraged me to pull it, and once I did, my light bulb came on! My light captivated me to transform into my best and most blessed me!! Thanks, Steph, for encouraging and believing in me!"
My goal is to create a course that'll transform the lives of my clients. But if for any reason you're not thrilled with the content and the potential impact it'll have on your life, I'll refund your tuition 100% within the first 60 days of your course registration date. Please email me with your reason for requesting a refund at [email protected]. There won't be any hoops to jump through to process your refund. I ask for feedback to improve my course.
I am not a therapist. Therapists treat diagnosed conditions. They focus on your past to explain why you have your present thoughts, behaviors, and habits. You could be in therapy for years or a lifetime. If your trauma is recent, or you're still having difficulty functioning in your daily life, therapy would be best for you. Therapy can be helpful in getting individuals back to a baseline level of good health.
I am a life coach. Life coaches do not diagnose and do not treat specific conditions. Life coaches spend little time going back into your past. Instead, they focus on getting you from where you are now to where you want to be. Life coaches set their clients up with the skills they need to eventually reach all their goals on their own. That's why coaching is not meant to be a permanent relationship.
If you're at a baseline level of good health and you need help getting unstuck so you can reach the bigger goals you have in life, then you would be a good candidate for life coaching.
Although this program focuses on helping people who have experienced trauma, this program is meant for those individuals who are functioning in their daily life but can see how the effects of their trauma still linger in their present life. My programs are about empowering my clients with the skills they need to move forward from their unchangeable past.
If you're unsure whether you should be working with a therapist, life coach, or both, please email me or schedule a free discovery call to discuss what would be best for you.
You will have access to the course content (all modules, videos, and tools) for 12 months after your course registration date. Unused coaching calls will expire 12 months after your course registration date.
This is designed to be a move-at-your-own-pace program. Therefore, you can pause and/or revisit the program and participate in your coaching calls anytime within 12 months after your course registration date.
You can email me at [email protected] with any questions.
Yes. You will email me your completed worksheets, so I can provide you with feedback and answer any questions or concerns you may have.
Coaching sessions will be held on Zoom. I will ask that you have your camera on. I find it is easier to feel connected when we can see one another. The improved relationship strengthens the impact of the coaching session.
You will receive instructions on how to schedule your coaching sessions in the online course you will have access to immediately after registration.
It is your responsibility to notify me at least 24 hours in advance of the scheduled meeting if you cannot make the session. If the session is cancelled less than 24 hours before the scheduled start of your call, no refund or rescheduling of the appointment will be available to you.
My typical fee is $200/hour. If you cancel at the last minute, I will lose the ability to make $200 during the time frame we were scheduled for.
That’s completely understandable. It took me a long time to reach the point where I could think about post-traumatic growth. I encourage you to check out my online course, Tools for Moving Forward After Trauma: serotinouslife.com/tools-for-moving-forward-course